Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Monday, July 30, 2007
Sunday, July 29, 2007
1) How can I let somebody into my life without interrupting my daily routines of the gym, volunteer work, class, studying, and my nightly sitting practice?
2) How do I make shyness work for me?
A relationship usually asks a lot of time and attention, and it can sting your narcissistic shell. Being involved with someone demands that you focus as much on the other as on yourself. I don't see how you can work a meaningful relationship into your busy life without some adjustment to your routine.
It might help to remember that a relationship keeps your soul alive. Through its demands and struggles, you become more of a person. But this process isn't neat and orderly. It will doubtless conflict with your smooth-running life and your careful plans. There's no doubt that it's worth the risk and the changes to your life, but those changes won't be easy for you.
Being shy with women can be a big problem, especially when the shyness is extreme. But as you allude in your letter, shyness can also be strength. There are many ways of being a strong and interesting person, and being shy rather than outgoing is one of them. We shy people -- I include myself in this category -- can be great companions. We can love and be attentive and enjoy life. In fact shyness is often just a way of keeping the lid on a powerful love of life and deep desire for sex and companionship. As always, things are often the opposite of what they appear to be.
I'm not one of those who think a person should strive to overcome shyness. Trying to be a different kind of person usually just makes a mess of everything. But you can finesse the shyness. It doesn't have to dominate your personality, and over time it can became something a little different, like sensitivity and thoughtfulness. In general, it's better to cultivate many varied and even contradictory qualities than to be defined by a single characteristic. Shyness is often a good facet of a personality, but it shouldn't be the only one-and I doubt it is in your case.
Many women like some shyness in a man. Maybe they understand that there's a lot of passion hidden behind that veneer of reserve. But the shyness has to be real, not feigned, and it has to be changing all the time. It isn't a good idea to hide behind shyness, or use it as an excuse not to live or love. It's who you are at the moment. Accept it, but then go on and become an even more interesting and varied person. Once you accept your shyness deeply, it will probably morph into a degree of reflection and self-possession that will draw people to you and work for you rather than against you.
noted : this is a copy paste from an article in the internet. it just a knowledge to share with other people.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
today im having fun with my best fren, sarah nina, lynn and matt.. a road trip to segamat (we're heading to Lynn's house..!!) yeay..!! went to segamat to take my oven from my dad coz he's working there and i'd already ask him to bring the oven from our house (for our business project). then we went to lynn's house, oh god..! the boys and gals eating durian at lynn's place...!! sOOo smelly... huhuu and they tried to force me to eat one.. but luckily there's no one can force me to eat those durian as i hate, HATE them soOOoo much.. huhuhu later one, we went to tangkak..!! GUNUNG LEDANG..!!
welcome to G.Ledang
luckily the weather was fine.. huhuuhu so damn nice ar the gunung ledang.. the water was so cold and refreshing..
me my fren
we just spend there for half an hour only as we need to go back to mlk.. upon reaching mlk, we went to have lunch (again) at US PIZZA.. ok la it was nice but im full already after ate 4 slice of pizza.. after that, we went to fetch mega and went to TESCO to buy stuff for our project business..
anyway today i had so much fun and feel tired now.. huhuhuhu .. till next time .. which is tomorrow about doing sample for our business project... see ya again..
Monday, July 23, 2007
Thursday, July 19, 2007
my nightmare is people leaving me all alone.. as i hate being alone.
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
Sunday, July 1, 2007
- people hit my head
- call me stupid
- lie to my face
- saying bad things behind my back
- accused me stuff i didnt do
- being hipocrit
- think they are better than other people
- dumb ass
i dunno for how many times i told these people for not doing this to me they still do this to me. ok i admit im not that good people.. but i dun lie to my fren, althou i sometimes not tellng the truth but at the end of the day or later, i will tell them the truth. i didnt lie to them untill they found out from others and so on.. i will tell them the truth after i lie to them (normally after 5 minute after i make joke with them). so that doesnt make me a liar. and i know no matter how angry i am, i will sure forget bout it after i sleep for a while..